It depends on how they want and are ready to process the breakup and deal with No Contact. Everyone deals with No Contact differently. Some take it as something quite casual and want to spend this time healing. Whereas others might get stuck in a vicious circle and can’t reflect. More specifically, they take it as a revenge plan toward them. Nevertheless, an ex blocks you during No Contact either to heal completely or to get you back. When they do it, that doesn’t mean that their decision is always linked directly with you! To make a great distinction, here are 11 reasons why an ex blocked you during No Contact:
1. They want to start fresh
How one chooses to deal with the breakup and the aftermath depends on their attachment style. If your ex has an anxious attachment style then they tend to be more anxious and lonely after the breakup. Thus, to take control of their feelings, they decide to block you during No Contact. You might have not interacted with them until now, but they block you. This is the case when I mentioned that blocking you is not directly and completely related to you. If they want to start fresh and focus on their healing, they try to be more distant!
2. They want to get the power back
Again, why an ex blocked you during No Contact depends on their personality and needs. If your ex was a controlling partner or a narcissist, they block you to boost their ego. Also, women or men who have low-self esteem need something to cling to after the breakup. What can make them feel outstanding, heard, or even “loved” once again is by blocking you. They think and feel that blocking you can trigger you and manipulate your feelings/thoughts. Blocking you is a result of their need to control the situation and claim that they’re winning the breakup.
3. Your ex is mixed up
When an ex is mixed up and is going through the stages of the breakup, they decide to block you. By distancing themselves, they want to have more time alone to understand what they’re feeling. Sometimes even for the dumper is not that easy to make this decision, but they need to solve their thoughts. In this case, blocking you cannot always have a negative impact on you. Maybe your ex needs this time so they can decide whether to make the relationship work again or not.
4. You’re making them feel uncomfortable
A dumper blocked you during No Contact because your posts might make them uncomfortable. If you were hurt by the breakup and wanted to prove to them you’re doing great, you might overpost. If you keep flinging on their face everything that you do then they will want to distance themselves from it. On the other hand, a dumpee will block you because your posts might hurt them. Either if you post something without any specific intention, that might make them uncomfortable.
It can be a snippet of you having fun;
It can be something, a place, some music, or anything that will remind them of your relationship;
Usually, a dumpee might take things more personally than a dumper. That’s quite normal because the dumpee is hurt and rejected. They are still processing their feelings and working on their self-esteem.
5. They are mad at you for not reaching out to them
If he or she blocked you during no contact, they might be holding grudges for not reaching out to them. While using this rule to heal and nourish yourself, your ex might be waiting for you to reach out. Usually, someone who is stubborn and has a big ego, won’t initiate a conversation during NC. Thus, they will block you because they want to trigger you indirectly. They will be playing mind games. They want you to think that they are over you, so you can reach out to them. When an ex is mad at you because you are using the No Contact rule, they will block you on everything. Hence, this is situational and depends on the type of your ex.
6. They are afraid of confrontations
An ex blocked you after some months because they are afraid to confront their feelings. Especially, if they are going through dumper’s remorse or romanticizing the relationship. Either way, they block you so they can avoid thinking about you and the situation. The fear of confronting someone or feelings comes as a result of having different expectations. That’s why to avoid all the pain that maybe the truth is causing your ex, they decide to block you. They block you with the idea that you will go back to them or change your stance towards them.
7. They want to trigger you
Usually, a narcissist will use the blocking technique to push your buttons. Or if I may say they block you so they can take control over the situation. They want to own the breakup and somehow play with your thoughts and your feelings. They use reverse psychology to make you feel somehow guilty for breaking up with them. During this type, they want to manipulate your thoughts and feelings and they do it by blocking and unblocking you. They will send you mixed signals and their aim is to make you confused.
8. You were bothering them during No Contact
An ex might block you if you were constantly pushing them and talking to them. If you were using No Contact but decided to break it and write to them, they might block you. During this time your ex might want some time alone to heal or maybe they want to move on. No matter what reason they might need some time on their own to reflect on the situation. If you kept being clingy and going on and off with No Contact, then this rule loses its power. They decide to get control over this situation and they might decide to block you.
9. They have started to miss you
If you have been using No Contact for more than a month, an ex might block you because they miss you. When they miss you and block you there are two reasons:
They want to let you know that they are thinking of you indirectly.
They want to remove you from any platform so they can focus on themselves.
There are bits and pieces that exes use so they can let you know that they’re thinking about you. Hence, it all depends on your situation and how the breakup ended. If the breakup was messy, an ex will block you because they might want to move on and forget you. That’s why when your ex blocks you, that doesn’t mean that they always are missing you.
10. They want to get revenge
This is one of the crucial reasons that an ex blocked you, especially narcissists. They want to make you feel how they felt when you started using No Contact. With one word, your ex wants you to feel hurt and rejection. Even when an ex isn’t a narcissist but you have hurt them a lot, they will block you right away. Maybe you started to use the No Contact to move forward, but they can’t accept that fact. Sometimes, for them, it’s hard to accept the fact that the relationship is over. That block button allows your ex to send some hidden messages and take “control” over the situation.
11. Your ex is giving you some indirect closure
An ex might not always give you closure. Sometimes when the relationship ends they just end things without any specific reason. If your ex blocks you months after No Contact that might mean that they have already moved on. Maybe they might be in a new relationship or just want to focus on enhancing themselves. Either way, by blocking you, they want to let you know that they have already moved on. I know that this isn’t the best way to end things and let you go but sometimes is possible.
Will no contact work if he blocked me?
Yes, the No Contact rule is working if your ex blocked you. First, it means that you are really focusing on yourself and trying to heal. It’s true and quite normal that you might have the ups and downs during the No Contact. You will feel the urge to call or text your ex, and that’s quite usual because you are processing the breakup. So, this rule isn’t designed to get your ex’s reaction. The aim of it is to detach yourself from the hurt and the breakup. The moment that you give yourself and your ex to reflect while being on your own, that’s when you know the rule is working. The rule will work either way even if you are the dumpee or the dumper. When they block you, you will either start fresh or rekindle the relationship.
Does getting blocked by an ex during No Contact hurt?
Yes, getting blocked by an ex during No Contact hurts a lot. What hurts the most is that all your relationship flashes before your eyes and you feel betrayed. Even though deep down you might know that your relationship is over, blocking you feels like the end of it. It feels like maybe you won’t ever talk to your ex and that they might hate you. Hence, hang on, this is not always the case and the reason. It might hurt a lot, even when you might not have strong feelings for them. But don’t be disappointed because blocking you doesn’t always mean that everything is over. In the meantime, you need to focus on yourself and find what you want. Learn to embrace solitude and spend some time on your own, so you can know yourself. Once you reflect properly on the past and on your relationship, you will know what you want.
What to do if an ex blocked you during No Contact?
The first thing that you should do when you get blocked by an ex during the No Contact is to not panic. That’s the most important thing because once you panic, you will go and break the No Contact. To be more specific, you are going to ruin what you have been ~Now, you need to focus more on your goals. You need to continue working on what is making you fulfilled and living in the moment. ~Avoid contacting them and asking what happened. I am aware that even after months of No Contact when they do it, you will feel crushed and rejected. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. Hence, contacting them will give them the power to control the situation. Your ex won’t give you a straightforward answer when they justify their actions. ~Use this time to reflect on your decisions, mistakes, and what caused your relationship to end. Only by doing it, you will have your thoughts and emotions under control. Do it by journaling or vetting to friends and family. Avoid ruminating. Only dig into the past when you try to find a solution for what went wrong.
Making a statement: My ex blocked me during no contact
Your ex blocked you during and after No Contact for two reasons: two heal or to get back with you. Sometimes it’s a tricky situation when you cannot decipher easily your ex’s behavior. Hence, the right thing to do is to focus on yourself and your healing journey. It’s not quite easy to do but you can start small. Remember that if you chase your ex during No Contact, they will even run farther. Give your ex and yourself space and time to reflect properly. Everything else will fall into place later on. Love, Callisto Adams
