You’ve broken up or divorced for several months now. You’re ready to heal and move on, but the narcissist has different plans for your future. No matter what you say or do, they keep coming back into your life. It’s frustrating and confusing- you don’t want them there, but they can’t seem to accept that. What’s going on, and what should you do? Why won’t the hoovering Narcissist leave you alone?...
I know that the period after No Contact is more critical than the moment you started the NC rule! Now, you wonder, what to do after No Contact or how do I respond? Well, that depends on your current approach toward your ex and whether your ex wants to get back to you or not after this period. If you have been following this rule properly (there is no I texted or called my ex first) and yet during this, your ex didn’t reply: That depends on the character of your ex....
But then there’s the sneaky thought that kicks in: “What if we run out of things to say?” Well, you can have things to talk about as long as you’re curious and interested in one another! It goes without saying that good questions make the conversations flow like a river in spring. Though, there are right and wrong questions that you can ask on the first date. I’ve got the right ones for you!...
Unfortunately, people pretending to love someone they’re in a relationship with is a thing. We wish that with some pixie dust everything would turn out fine, but the reality isn’t that easy. Hence, we step back and reflect. We, humans, suck at hiding things, suck at pretending, as we are designed and built to communicate not through verbal language only. We are constantly giving hints, signals, but also receiving them....
Have you ever thought about the questions girls are afraid to ask guys? Women like asking questions because they want to know what they’re getting into before becoming emotionally attached. Some of these questions include would you like to get married one day? What is your ideal woman? And who gets the bill when we go out? Females are afraid to ask these questions because they don’t want to appear pushy and scare him away....
Different individuals experience and manifest withdrawal from their partners differently. However, we’re the same kind, the same species, and there are commonalities in our behaviors, even though we’re individuals. When he’s pulling away, you’ll notice something to be off. It can even be one of the reasons you’re here reading this. Before you get to the end of this list, you’ll get the answer clear and simple. Turning tables around isn’t as easy, however, it’s something that can be done....
Usually breadcrumbing starts when the dumper is beginning to deal with hurt and pain from the breakup. Your ex is trying to heal their separation anxiety by reaching out to you. It’s such a complex period because you’ve just been dealing with the breakup and trying to nourish yourself. Now you find yourself in between reconnecting with your ex or not. That’s why it is very important to make a distinction between e pure intention of reconciliation and breadcrumbing....
“They did the personality test, and by process of elimination, it was concluded that it was narcissistic personality disorder. So from that moment on, I started treatment, because I didn’t want to have that.” Those are the words of a narcissist interviewed by SBS in 2019. After six and a half years of treatment, he was released and now runs counseling sessions to help other narcissists change and to help victims of narcissistic abuse deal with what they are going through....
Affairs can be undoubtedly devastating, but are all affairs created equally? What are the key differences between an impulsive one-night stand and romantic affairs that last more than a year and how do affairs that last more than a year usually end? Cheating is considered wrong, but can people fall in love when having an emotional affair? Moreover, can the betrayed spouse find forgiveness and reconciliation? Will a marriage survive such instances of infidelity?...
When a man pulls away from you, the worst thing you can do is chase him. I’ll tell you why shortly. But if you’ve been asking yourself how to be a high value woman when he pulls away, there are several things you need to do, including pull away too, get on with your life, and spend time alone. Please note that this is not about playing childish mind games, but there is a strategy you need to follow, or you will lose any chance of ever getting back with this dude if that’s what you want....
As with all romantic relationships, your time together consists of highs and lows. However, when your boyfriend is a narcissist, the highs are so high you feel as if you’ve been transported into another realm; you become so enamored with him that you want to be together forever. On the flip side, he has the potential to be mercilessly insensitive and you are left feeling completely worthless. And this is the emotional roller coaster you are forced to endure when your partner is a narcissist....
Narcissists don’t play by the rules, and if you want to make them obsessed with you, you’ve got to beat them at their own game. How to make a narcissist obsessed with you? May I warn you, this is not going to be an easy task. But if you’re willing to put the work in, and ditch your traditional romantic ideals, you can have a narcissist whimpering like a puppy, and eating out of the palm of your hand....
To avoid being called desperate is to find ways you can text him and show interest without being labeled clingy or needy. Texting a guy without sounding desperate means avoiding coming on too strong to him and avoiding demanding his attention. Rather, to text a guy without sounding desperate you should respect his time and space, while also being considerate and genuine of his and your feelings and time. It is the manner in which you say things rather than the frequency of texts that you send him....
By blocking your ex on everything that doesn’t mean that you are completely following the No Contact Rule. This Rule is more than just wiping your ex out of your life/social media life. If you want to obey this rule then you should not interact with your ex through phone calls, text messages, social media, or even meet in person. It doesn’t mean that you have to always block your ex to get him/her back or that the blocking helps you in breaking the chains of grief earlier....
You can’t feel like yourself around them, you think of changing them, or they want to change you, there are toxic patterns in your behaviors with one another, people around you might be concerned and tell you they don’t like the person you’re with. You could be the wrong one in the relationship, they could be the wrong one. Generally, it’s a mismatch. Everyone has the right person to date for their type....
That feeling is triggered during holidays, times when you are hanging out with other couples, or when there is a small detail that reminds you of your ex, and when you meet new people. Maybe, just maybe when you’re all alone and that haunts you! How to know that your ex misses you during NC? To have a glimpse at whether your ex is missing you during No Contact or not you should be fully committed to this rule....
He said he doesn’t want a relationship but keeps you around, or keeps contacting you, or doesn’t contact you at all. Despite its commonality in the dating world, this situation is no piece of cake to deal with. It can mess up your mind, your emotional state, and your self-esteem, big time! When a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship you’re not left with many options, but you sure are left with a head full of thoughts that run so fast around your head....
You and this guy have been friends for a long time, and you have feelings for him. But he never makes the first move, so you decide to. He lets you down easily by telling you he’s not ready for a relationship but wants to be friends. What does it mean when he doesn’t want a relationship but wants to be friends? Is it because he doesn’t find you attractive?...
This article is written by a dear friend of mine A year has passed since I ended a relationship with a narcissistic man. I am removed from the relationship now but my heart has not healed. I can go several days in a row without thinking about it. I can still clearly remember when it seemed impossible to get through even a minute without thinking about it. During the first few weeks I had to train myself to not think about him or his betrayal for five minutes, then 10 minutes, then an hour at a time....
When you might have already stopped contact, you cannot text him in an attempt to immerse yourself into something that makes you happy. This period will surely make you feel anxious, question your actions, and reevaluate your worth, which is the last thing you should be doing. The ring of your phone gives you a light of hope that he has finally reached out, preventing you from moving on, every single time....
