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What is a Sadistic Narcissist? Underneath the charismatic façade that the narcissist displays to the world can be an easily angered sadist. Sam Vaknin, author of “Malignant Self-Love”, defines the relationship between narcissism and sadism as psychodynamic ‘cousins’. The narcissist is as capable of meting out pain as any sadist. The reason behind their sadistic acts is what creates the difference. Yes, the narcissist uses torture and abuse but he does so as a means of punishment for perceived slights and, thus, reasserting his sense of superiority....

After the breakup, most people tend to make decisions based on their emotions. While making these decisions on your own or taking your friends and family’s help might create confusion. Thus, emotions can send you to some dark places, and navigating this situation on your own will be hard. Every situation is unique and every breakup happens for different reasons. That’s why the specific help of a personal coach is needed....

You’ve got thoughts, ideas, and opinions. You’ve got yourself. Well, you’ve got this man too. You find him charming, and attractive, and you kind of wish he was chasing you, right? We’re not going to be running, dear reader, not today. It can be difficult to start something if the initiative is missing, especially when he’s not the one making the initiative. If you’re not feeling appreciated by this man, if you’re feeling like he’s got no idea how precious you are, then this one’s for you!...

How does a Narcissist react when they can’t control you anymore? One of the major components of narcissism is gaining control over others. This type of behavior is often a reaction to a childhood completely dominated by a narcissistic parent (or parents)- controlled in all aspects of his young life and not allowed to develop control over his own life. So, why do narcissists need control? What happens if they lose control?...

Do you suspect that your partner doesn’t love you anymore? Has his behavior towards you changed dramatically over the past few months? Some signs that he doesn’t love you anymore include: Not caring about your feelings.Checking out other women in front of you.Losing interest in sex. It’s heart-breaking when you’ve invested so much time and energy into a relationship only to discover that you didn’t get a return on your investment....

There’s nothing wrong with talking about his day. It is a great way to be updated on what he’s up to, and a great way to keep the connection strong. However, we want to make this text conversation a bit longer with him, a bit more interesting, especially when you’re bored and have run out of topics! One of the main keys to making a text conversation with him longer, more interesting, and for it to not be forced is to ask him questions....

When a guy texts you goodnight out of the blue, it’s often because he wants to end the chat on a good note, he wants your attention, or because he has unknown intentions for the conversation. This establishes that every situation is special and not all of them have the same answer. One thing is for sure, you are still thinking about why you got such a text from him....

Robert A. Heinlein, in his book Time Enough for Love, famously said (via his character, Lazarus Long) “A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity.” If he was right, that would make narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) an interesting case when it comes to jealousy. Narcissists are often competent in many areas of life, often doing well in the dog-eat-dog capitalist world....

Why do people cheat on people they love? Most people who cheat in relationships claim to love the partner they have wronged very much truly. Usually, their sincerity is doubtful. After all, if you really love someone, it means you have to maintain a certain level of trust, commitment, and honor, right? So, what does cheating say about the person? When you cheat, it means you aren’t to be trusted, you cannot commit, you have no respect for your partner, and you just do not care about them....

Want to learn a few funny things to say to a narcissist? Narcissists are self-absorbed, abrasive people. They can be a pain to deal with and even worse to live with, and it’s tempting to clap back at them after one of their tirades. What’s worse, though, are the long-term effects of exposure to a narcissist. Hurtful and manipulative, they can easily reduce innocent and unsuspecting victims into emotional shells....

Every once in a while you’ll see a story on the news – a domestic abuse situation where the victim was assaulted but immediately returned to their abuser. When it happens, we ask why this person would ever go back to such a toxic situation. We judge them and wonder how they could have so little common sense. We make these sanctimonious pronouncements because most of us have never been in a relationship with a narcissist and we don’t comprehend their ability to persuade their victims....

Can a man sleep with a woman without developing feelings for her is a common question. There are several reasons it’s easier for men to have casual sex, including love and sex are not the same for men, men need sex, and men produce less oxytocin than women. If you’ve slept with a guy and now want a relationship, but you’re confused about why he’s not committing, it’s probably because he doesn’t have feelings for you....

Dumping someone can be hard and even experiencing being dumped is even harder. The dumper and the dumpee are aware of the damage that the breakup causes. Hence, the difference is the way they choose to deal with it. The dumper has already detached and the dumpee is just trying to adjust to the breakup. A dumper might break up for different reasons. Usually, it is unhappiness that follows the relationship or not feeling compatible....

However, that still doesn’t help clear the confusion on how often you should text a guy to keep him interested. It makes you anxious and overthinks your actions because you fear that you might come on too strong, look desperate, or be clingy. However, to keep it safe, you can text a guy 2-3 times a week to keep him interested and start to get to know him. As you mutually start getting more invested and interested in each other, you will start texting more and more every time....

At some point in life, you’re probably going to need to ignore someone. Whether it’s an aggravating coworker who won’t leave you alone, a friend who keeps pushing your buttons, or an ex who keeps trying to talk to you, ignoring people helps you avoid situations where you continue feeling frustrated. It also allows you to regroup and decide which boundaries you want to set moving forward. And as it turns out, there isn’t a single best way to navigate these awkward situations....

At the same time, it can be such an exciting and confusing time. If your crush, boyfriend, wife, or husband, texts you, you feel appreciated. You feel heard and loved. Yet, is this always the case for receiving good morning texts? Every situation is unique in its way. Thus, every situation requires a different reply. Especially, if you aren’t used to a good morning text or you’re not used to texting a lot....

Yet, you should be careful to not cross any of his boundaries, otherwise, things might get uncomfortable. The key to doing it successfully is to show affection to that extent to make him see his value but also notice your impact too. Remember that text messages can be misunderstood, that’s why you have to choose specific words to express your feelings. Using simple words to express your love and reminiscing will help you avoid awkward situations and not seem desperate....

You’ve met a really nice girl, she has a boyfriend but flirts with you. If you are attracted to her, these mixed signals can be exciting and disheartening all at the same time. Exciting because she’s everything you’ve ever wanted in a woman, in fact, you think she’s too good for you which adds to the excitement. But disheartening because now you’re in a dilemma since she’s flirting with you even though she’s a girl with a boyfriend....

When you start to implement this rule, you should cut all communication with your ex. To begin your healing journey properly by using this rule, you need to mute or block your ex on any platform or way. This means that you should avoid meeting them “accidentally” or hanging on purpose with mutual friends. Any little interaction will prevent your healing journey and you will need to start it all over....

Decoding emojis can sometimes feel like reading a foreign language. For example, does the smiling face emoji mean something dramatically different from the angel face emoji? And what about less-obvious ones, like the monkey emoji or purple heart emoji? How do you figure out what it all means? On the one hand, you might automatically assume his emojis are either romantic or flirtatious. Emojis, in that form, almost represent artwork, and he’s using them as a way to convey that he has deep feelings for you....