Especially, if you have an anxious attachment style then you tend to start and speculate. Well, the reasons that could have impacted his behavior can be numerous. If a guy doesn’t text you for a day can mean a lot of things. That depends on what type of relationship you have with one another. He might be tired of always initiating the conversation, has a busy day, or just needs more time to contact you. To stop your doubting, let’s check what it means if a guy doesn’t text you for a day. Follow these 12 different situations and check if you can find yourself between the lines!
1. He is mad at you
If you had a prior argument or you had a fight then maybe he is hurt and mad and doesn’t want to talk to you. He is ignoring you because he might be hurt and is going through hard feelings right now. Now, he might need a day to reflect and work on his feelings and thoughts. If you’re already in a relationship and his behavior is sudden then he might have been hurt. You will notice that he will behave differently during the whole day. Depending on the intensity of your argument, it will take him a day or more to connect with you.
2. He is waiting for you to text him first
Sometimes a guy likes to be chased because this gives him attention and boosts his ego. This doesn’t mean that all men like to do the same thing but some do. Especially, if he has traits of an alpha man then he won’t play games so he can be chased. Also, he might be afraid of rejection and is not sure whether you like him or not. In this case, you might give him more than a day just to notice how he will react. Then, you can initiate a simple text because that won’t harm anyone. You can text him and ask how he is doing. Keep the text short and simple. It’s better to avoid accusations or use any bad words because you thought he was ignoring you.
3. He doesn’t like texting a lot
Not everyone is a good texter. Your texting skills and habits also depend on gender too. Sendall (2013) states that women like to text more than men. So for a man isn’t a big deal if he doesn’t text you during the day, especially if you’re just talking or dating. In general, a man doesn’t get anxious if a woman doesn’t contact him for 24 hours. Also, it depends on his personality too whether he likes to chat more over text or interact in person. I understand that it is really hard to distinguish whether he is a bad texter or whether he is a player or not interested. Specifically, if you are still on the talking stage and you haven’t met yet is hard to decode his behavior. That’s why we recommend another type of help: a relationship coach that will help you be more subjective!
4. He isn’t interested in you
A guy that isn’t interested in you, will try to avoid you in different forms. He will constantly give you signs that he doesn’t want to commit or is talking to you just to pass time or boost his ego. When he isn’t interested or just is leading you, he will keep coming back but disappears suddenly for a day. What can help you to distinguish it and know what he feels about you is the way he interacts with you. If he doesn’t care to apologize or let you know why he keeps disappearing randomly then he isn’t into you. In a few words, he isn’t prioritizing you and doesn’t think that he needs to explain his behavior.
5. He wants to act mysteriously
If a guy likes you and wants to get your attention, he will act mysteriously. Now, he doesn’t text you for a day because he wants to act like he is busy. Maybe he is busy but most guys will try to disconnect a bit because he doesn’t want to seem boring. To be more specific, this guy wants you to think that he has a life of his own and the world doesn’t revolve around you. If he is confident then he will take a day off just to give you also the needed space.
6. He might have forgotten to reply
If your husband or your boyfriend doesn’t reach out to you just for once he might have forgotten. Especially if he went on a work trip or is busy working. He might even leave you on read by accident and get caught up on the day. If he always checks up on you and texts you frequently then he might be having a fast and hard day. When days are days even you might put your phone away and just go to sleep. I know that right now you are thinking but am I not his priority? Yes, you are but sometimes a day can be different, in particular, if you’re having a hard or bad day.
7. He isn’t sure if he wants to take the relationship any further
If you have been in a short-term relationship or you’re not dating exclusively, he won’t text you for a day. He will do it because he doesn’t want to take fully the responsibilities that being in a relationship requires. Thus, he might be feeling confused and starts slowly to pull away. He doesn’t text you for a day then later starts to text you less. The dots will be connected when his actions won’t match his words. You will rarely see one another and then one day he will just vanish.
8. He doesn’t want to seem too clingy or bother you
This is one of the traits that screams HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. It’s really important to know when to give space while dating or while you’re in a relationship. I know that you might think, yeah, well if he doesn’t text me daily does it mean that he isn’t into me? Well, yes he is into you if he treats you right and from time to time leaves you to create your own life. A relationship is a symbiotic process where you have to give and receive. If one is doing more than another partner then that relationship won’t work properly and it will be toxic.
9. He is overwhelmed and feels anxious
He needs some space on that specific day because life might be feeling difficult for him. It is important to know that when dating also when you’re in a relationship one needs a day off. He might be dealing with his feelings and his perception of life or work. Sometimes, your date or partner might state that he isn’t at his best but there are some cases when he doesn’t. A guy who can’t express his emotions and feelings will isolate himself from everyone for a few days.
10. You’re overthinking it
Don’t let your insecurities mislead you… When you have low self-esteem, you tend to be more anxious while dating or being in a relationship. You are more codependent than he is. That’s why you tend to be constantly in a fight or flight mode. What you need is his attention and to reassure you about his feelings or intention. That’s pretty normal but sometimes these insecurities lead you to intrusive thoughts. Step back, relax, and even if he doesn’t text you for a day, you should focus on yourself.
11. He wants to play it cool
Maybe he just doesn’t want to rush things and be the only one who does everything. The timeline of dating and relationships differs for men and women. Men don’t look at dating the same way women do. It takes a long time for a man to understand that he has feelings for someone. That’s why he tries to take one step at a time. This doesn’t mean that he isn’t interested or doesn’t have strong feelings for you.
12. He ran out of things to say
This might look like a boring or cliche reason but it exists too. Sometimes life gets quite busy and suddenly there comes a time when he has nothing to say. In general, a man isn’t text-oriented just like a woman. If he would like to talk to you then he would do it over the phone or in person. So, if a guy doesn’t text you for a day but the next time talks to you as always, that’s normal. Check out how he interacts with you. Does he behave as usual or he is more distant or love-bombs you? This makes a huge difference because when a man cheats or isn’t sure about his feelings, he will change drastically.
Is not responding for a day ghosting?
If a guy doesn’t text you for a day then that’s not called ghosting. What’s labeled as ghosting is if he doesn’t respond to your texts or doesn’t initiate contact for more than three or four days. Especially, if he is active on other online platforms but still doesn’t text you. That means that he is ignoring you and doesn’t want to interact. When he doesn’t contact you for a week then you’re not his priority or has lost attraction. When a guy ghosts you something along the way must have happened. Everyone has their own life and responsibilities but not responding to you for more than three days means that is over.
He said he would text me but hasn’t!
Well, a guy would say that he will text you and still not do it for different reasons. It also depends on how long he hasn’t texted you. ~If he disappears for more than a day and doesn’t contact you but posts on social media, he isn’t interested in you. He might have told you that he will initiate contact by himself so you won’t reach out to him. It all depends on how long you’ve been dating or if is he someone you just met. ~On the other hand, if your boyfriend or husband said that he would text you but still hasn’t something must have happened. If he didn’t text you for a day then he might be busy or something might have distracted him. If he hasn’t texted you for days then maybe he’s mad at you, going through a roller coaster of feelings, or just confused. Whatever he’s going through it will be reflected on you. You will notice some changes in his behavior and he will give you mixed signals. ~Furthermore, he might be testing you. In particular, if you just started dating and he always initiates conversations, he will test you. Now, he might want to know if you are girlfriend material and if your feelings for him are real.
What to do if he didn’t text me today?
If he hasn’t texted you today try to put your focus somewhere else. I am not implying to forget about him or try to trick your mind. What I mean is that you need to keep yourself and your mind in motion.
- If your partner didn’t text during the day then make sure to contact him later on. Just ask how his day was and if he needs anything. I know that sometimes it’s hard to spend the whole day without interacting with your loved one but try to do this. It’s better to check up on him than to ignore him back. You’re in a relationship and “a good morning” or “good night” text is always needed.
- Try to focus on other things. If you are just talking or recently dating then focus on yourself. Don’t text or double-text him right after that one day. If you text him immediately and ask where he has been, you will give him the wrong impression. It is quite normal to show him that you care about him. Hence, while dating, you need to give him space to breathe too. Let him reflect on a day without your presence. He will get to value you more.
- If you always initiate the conversation and today you didn’t do it, just try to not text. Now is your time to test whether he will text or not. Usually, if you are a part of a situationship and you’re not his priority, he won’t do it. A man, in this case, knows that you put him on a pedestal and he has you in the palm of his hand. That’s why is important to focus on yourself, your activities, and everyday life. Do not choose to sit, be desperate, and wait for his text. Take an initiative or enhance yourself. You can do it. Love and light, Callisto
