It all depends on what he wrote in his last text and his expectations. If you ignore his texts because he did the same thing to you then he’ll receive the right message. He will notice that you have set your boundaries and that you are giving him the same energy. In this situation, he will try to contact you again either because of his pride or his feelings. Yet, if you ignore him on purpose to get his attention he might pull away faster than texting you back. Here are 8 different situations when ignoring his texts he will and won’t text again:
1. If you have always initiated the texts then you need to give him some space
Ignoring his text messages when he hasn’t given you the same effort will be necessary. Yet, you should not ignore his texts for more than a day or two because then Ignoring him in this case will make him miss you. Yet, you should know for how long not to reply. If you ignore his message for more than two days, he will get the ick. It all depends if he has an anxious attachment style or he is a fearful-avoidant. If he is anxious then he will get faster to you and might double-text you. A fearful-avoidant will take this as a sign that you moved on. Because a fearful-avoidant is afraid when they notice that the relationship is progressing.
2. He will text back if he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings
If he has high emotional intelligence, ignoring his texts won’t hurt him. He will try to reflect on his behavior and if he did anything to hurt you. At the same time, he will work on his flaws or whatever is making you ignore him. Yet, he will be the one that will reach out to you first. In this case, he won’t think that maybe he isn’t keeping you happy or satisfied. His self-confidence is stable and he doesn’t overthink whether he isn’t enough for you or not. That’s why he won’t ignore you back but will give you some time to reflect. After some time, he will connect with you and ask for answers.
3. When his last message was abusive
In this case, when you get uncomfortable with his text and you choose to ignore him, he will reach out to you. When you’re distant and don’t give any opinion, your behavior and silence will trigger him. Now, he will be more persistent and he will text you again. His next text messages will either contain words of begging, dragging you down, or comparing you with himself.
Why you aren’t texting back???? Yo, I need an answer. Talk to me. Why don’t you reply to my texts?? I am the one to blame that I put so much effort into our relationship. You think that I won’t find someone better. You wish.
This is how he uses to cope with being ignored. His coping mechanism includes his passive-aggressive behavior. Indeed, you should ignore his text messages in this case. If you reply, he will use even the smallest detail to use it against you. To know how to react in this situation, you can use the help of a relationship coach.
4. If you don’t have feelings for him
Ignoring his text messages just because you don’t feel the same as he does, will make him feel less powerful. When a guy is interested in you will be quite confused and offended that you’re ignoring him. A guy will take this as a sign that you want to be chased or you want to be left alone. Depending on his ego and pride, he will either be persistent or will decide to take a step back. In general, a man will pull away if he notices that he’s being ignored while he’s constantly trying to talk to you.
5. He thinks that you’re using him
This study condemns that being ignored hurts more than arguing with one another. If you ignore his text constantly and then you initiate texts when you need him, you will hurt him. While experiencing this, he will try to communicate with you because he will wonder what he is doing wrong. Then after a while, if you ignore him for days and come back to him, he will notice this pattern. Going back and forth and ignoring his texts for days, won’t make him miss you. It will make him more insecure and his feelings for you will start to change slowly.
6. If he has past trauma of abandonment
Ignoring a guy’s texts who has been healing his inner child or past relationship trauma will make him even more insecure. Yes, he will text again after you ignore him. He will be extremely persistent. If you don’t answer for days and leave him hanging then he might even isolate himself too. In this case, it is better to open up to him and not mislead him. The lack of communication will trigger his past trauma and he will be in fight or flight mode constantly.
He will text you multiple times. He will write you on any other platform. He will call multiple times and leave voice messages.
7. When he respects your wishes and decision
You might have been online dating and you ignore his text messages and ask yourself now what? It depends on his personality but nowadays guys who do online dating, don’t take ghosting personally. If he has noticed that you’re replying shortly and showing a lack of interest then he will not text again. He will jump to his other option especially if he was keeping his dating options open. Now, if he wasn’t dating you exclusively, he would respect your decision and not text you again.
8. If he is getting mixed signals from you then he won’t text again for a while
Ignoring his text messages will give him hot and cold vibes. The moment that you create confusion, he might not feel sure whether you are on the same page. Even if you’re ignoring his text message due to your uncertainty, you will make him more confused. Now, he might text you again but if you keep ignoring his texts for a long period, he will withdraw. Only if you have been dating for a while and have strong feelings, then will he be persistent for a period. He will either ask you to spot the problem or will decide to move on.
When you ignore a guy, how does he feel?
How a guy feels after his texts are ignored by you is defined by his personality and level of emotional intelligence. Indeed, everyone feels hurt and confused at the beginning. In general, every man gets frustrated when his text messages get ignored. If you think that whether ignoring his text will make him chase you, yes, it will. Hence, this won’t continue for a long time. You cannot captivate him by playing mind games all the time. Because when some time passes, being ignored will make him feel unworthy and unvalued by you.
What to do if you ignored him and now he is ignoring you?
If you ignored him then he might ignore you too because he took the wrong hint. When a guy is ignored then his ego and pride will be crushed. A guy doesn’t want to keep contacting a girl that ignores him and he might think that you find him boring or not compatible. To be more specific, he just doesn’t want to look like he is harassing you. ~Now you might feel like you like him more and your feelings might have changed but now he doesn’t feel the same. You cannot teach him to like, love, or respect you if you ignore him. When you ignore him, he will ignore you back. He might have realized that you’re not into him and ignoring can make him feel like a burden. To avoid this type of feeling, he will choose to ignore you back.
Should I text him back after I ignored him?
You should text him back after you ignored him if you still have feelings for him and want to reconcile. Still, before doing it, you should check if he is on the same page as you. If you kept ignoring him for months or a year and now you want him back then you should know what he feels for you.
Now, if you want to give it a try, you should start by apologizing and telling him the reason why you ignored him. Don’t be too persistent or make this situation about yourself because know his feelings are also involved. You should take responsibility for your actions and show empathy for him. You should be ready to expect any type of reaction from him. Try to focus on how your actions impacted him and not what your aim is to get him back. If the relationship was toxic then you should keep your distance and not contact him back.
Why does he keep texting me after I ignored him?
He keeps texting you after you ignored him because either he feels hollow, he is hurt or he loves you. A guy will be persistent after you ignore his texts because he wants closure from you.
- He cannot move on if you had a great relationship but you suddenly choose to ghost him. You cannot blame him for wanting a simple answer after being ignored. If he didn’t do anything wrong for you and has strong feelings for you, it’s hard for him to accept this situation.
- He is still hoping that you can reconcile. If you ignored his texts out of nowhere and without a certain reason, he might still be hoping to get back together. It depends on the guy, but if you have rejected him, he will texting to you because he’s seeking a second chance. Now, he might want to be your friend and then he’s hoping that he might develop your relationship.
- He might not notice that you’re ignoring him. He might think that something happened to you and this is not related to him. Sometimes, a man is not good at reading signs and he might not read the signs as he should.
- His pride and ego are broken, and he wants to boost them. Being ignored and rejected hurts but a man is always hurt because he thinks that his masculinity is being played. Now, he might blame you for how you made him feel and that you need to go through the same thing. Mostly, a narcissistic match, partner, or ex will do it. He will blame you in the beginning. Later on, he might say that he changed his mind, he was wrong or he was kidding about it. So, he works toward manipulating your emotions and thoughts. He just wants to get you hooked and later on, he might ignore you too. For him, it might be an ongoing game, and will want to make you suffer the same as he did when you ignored him.
The conclusion:
Ignoring a guy’s text won’t always have a positive impact on you. Making him wait on purpose might will not always be the perfect way to get a guy’s attention. Sometimes debating or even being upfront about your decisions will be a better solution. You might either choose to work out, you may attract him more or you’ll respect each other’s decisions. Not every man reacts the same when he is ignored. The way he reacts is closely connected with his past relationship trauma and the way he controls his emotions. If you ignore him on purpose, he will feel and notice it. It’s alright if you give him some space to reflect on his feelings for you or miss you. But, you shouldn’t use it as a manipulative tool to change his feelings for you or make him love you even more. All the best, Callisto Adams
