There are plenty of ways to ask a guy out over text, but texting him asking out is easier because you can manage your response better despite his answer. You can jump out of excitement if he says yes or cries your eyeballs out if he says no. You know, the usuals. But he won’t get to see it, because it’s through text. Well, here’s the thing! The worst that could happen is you not giving it a try and never knowing how things would work out. So, how to ask a guy out over text? Put your seatbelt on, because we’re going for it hard this time!
Asking a guy out over text: 25 text examples you can steal for yourself!
Whether you’re trying to ask a guy to meet up or to ask him out for a date for realsies, you’ve got to keep it real and be confident. Now, depending on whether you want this to be a date or just a meet-up, you can keep it casual or mention the word “date” in your text. Relax and keep it light. It’s just a text. Here are 25 examples of cute ways to ask a guy out over text:
- “Hey [name] I’m gonna be hiking at [name of the place] this Saturday, since you told me you love hiking too, I thought I’d invite you to come with me. Let me know if you’re in!”
- “Hi [name], you told me you’re good at painting, and since I suck at it, I’d love it if you could teach me something about it! 5 pm this Friday? I got the equipment btw.”
- “So, I have an extra ticket for [movie name]. If you feel like seeing it at the [cinema name] this Friday, you can totally come with me!”
- “Hey [name], want to join me for coffee/beers/wine this Friday?”
- “Hi [name]! I couldn’t help but tell you how amazing I found your work. If you’ve got the time, I’d love to hear about the process that took you to get there over coffee tomorrow.”
- “Oh btw, I find it fascinating that you can [something that he does that you find fascinating], and I’d definitely like to know more about you as a person. Beers this Wednesday?”
- “Hey [name], I find you pretty interesting, and I’d love to get to know you more! How about a cup of coffee at 6 pm tomorrow?”
- “I’ll be at the [name of place] tomorrow, wanna join?”
- “I bet I can beat you at basketball. If we place the bet, we’ve got to meet up at the park tomorrow!”
- “Hi [name]! I know how much you love museums, and I’ve got a surprise for you! Wanna meet up at [name of place] tomorrow?”
- “Wanna join me for coffee tomorrow at lunch?”
- “I think you’re awesome! How about wine tomorrow?”
- “You’re an interesting person and I’d like to get to know you more. How about drinks tomorrow night?”
- “I’m visiting [name of place] this Friday. Wanna join?”
- “I’ve been wanting to learn more about that. Would you like to teach me some stuff over drinks tomorrow?”
- “[name of the movie] will be shown this week at [name of cinema]. Wanna join me?”
- “Since you’ve never been to [name of place] I’m taking you there. Is this Friday good for you?”
- “I found this amazing coffee shop close to where I live. How about I show you around a little bit this Friday?”
- “Hey there! I’m visiting the new gallery in town this Thursday. Wanna join me?”
- “Hi [name]. I’ve got some things to tackle at [name of place] today, and if you’re free at around 5 pm we could grab some drinks. Let me know if you can make it.”
- “How about we go out on a date this weekend?”
- “Would you like to join me for a hike this Saturday?”
- “[name of the trail] is my favorite trail too! Wanna go there next week?”
- “I’d love to take you out for coffee this week. Would Friday work for you?”
- “There’s gonna be this party at [name of place] this Saturday. Would you like to come with me?”
Crafting your own text: everything you need to know about asking a boy out over text!
Asking a guy on a date over text is far less difficult than doing it in person. Asking a guy out over text is about being direct, confident, smooth, and fun about it. You want to make your message light and easy to respond to. If you don’t want to steal a message and instead create your own text to ask him out, here’s how you do it!
– Find something you both have in common.
It could be a movie of a movie genre you both like, music, food, activities such as hiking, surfing, skating, painting, or dancing, you name it! That way you make it easier to get an idea of whether he likes you enough to go out on a date with you or not. Or you can find something he’s good at so that he can teach you about it. Something that stands out a little from the standards, something personal, something related to him. You can be creative in this part and ask him out in a funny way. Something like “Since I suck at basketball, maybe you can teach me.”
– You’re not desperate, you just have an extra ticket!
This is how you ask him in a cute way. You just happened to have that one extra ticket. Inviting him in a cute way will make a cute date too! Just an activity that you can do with or without him, but you decide you want some company. It’s as simple as that! It gives him room for answering and shows if he really likes you but he’s shy to ask you out.
– You can be direct and specific about it.
Men can’t read between the lines. And you want to be as specific as possible. You can try as hard as you wish to find indirect ways to ask him out, but he won’t get the clues, his brain doesn’t work that way. Yes, a way to ask him out without sounding desperate, without having him confused. Straight to the point, this is how you do it. You can ask him after starting a conversation through text with him to keep it light and casual. But, make sure you’re specific about it. “I’m going there this weekend, wanna join me?” instead of “I’d love to go there sometime.”
– Be confident about it.
Own it. Seriously, he’s a human being too, he’s no god, he’s no demigod, and he’s no judge. He’s just a human being. And at the end of the day, confidence is not about who and how he is. It’s about you being comfortable, knowing your own worth, and knowing that things come and go, things happen, and you got yourself no matter what! You’re subtly asking him out, you’re confident, and you’re direct. Don’t overthink it and don’t stress about it. He’s not the last guy on earth, you’re awesome no matter what his answer will be. His answer doesn’t determine who you are or how worthy you are. He either likes you and says yes, or doesn’t like you – not the end of the world – and says no.
– You took the first step, but it doesn’t mean that you’re the one that has to keep carrying things going on.
You made the first move, now it is up to him too. Don’t make it a habit and invest in him more than you can, or more than he does. Men are known to take advantage of that. I’m not saying to give, I’m not saying to nourish where you can. I just want you to be careful where and to whom you give. Just because you asked him, doesn’t mean you have to be the ‘entertainer’. If it is going well, you’re having fun, the vibes are reciprocated, and you’re Gucci. But, if he’s not feeling it and it is so noticeable that you feel it’s up to your nose, then you’re absolutely free and okay to end the date, or at least stop trying to entertain him or convince him it was a good idea. You don’t owe it to him!
– Facing rejection if he says no.
Rejection can be: “No”, “I’m not ready”, “I’ll let you know, I need time right now”, or just anything that isn’t a definitive yes. When he likes you back, when the interest is reciprocated it’ll be a yes. If he can’t make it, he will AT LEAST give an alternative option that works for him. If he’s saying he’s busy, or that he can’t make it for whatever reason and doesn’t give you another option, then he’s probably not interested. I’m sorry, but that’s the cold truth, it freezes your face off, but it’s better to accept it and move on to a warmer place. If you get no for an answer, and if he doesn’t give you any other options as an attempt to make it up, then avoid insisting or being pushy about it. You can send him something along the lines of “I respect that. Thanks anyway.” and move on.
Here’s why you should and why you shouldn’t ask him out through text!
Considering the place that phones and texting have in our lives nowadays, it is absolutely ok to ask someone over text. Be creative with it. Be playful and/or funny if it’s part of your personality. Keep it simple so that he’ll know what you’re asking for (considering that men can’t read between the lines). Understand and accept that you’re not desperate, you’re doing this for fun and interest. Give him time to respond. Check the grammar before you send the text. Although there’s still a stigma when it comes to the question of whether a woman can ask a man out or not. Of course, a woman can ask a man out. A human asking another human to go out together, there’s nothing wrong with that. On the plus side, a lot of guys like it when they’re asked out by a woman. That being said, you should ask a guy out if you want to. – Here’s why asking a guy to hang out over text is a good idea!
Asking a man out by text gives you more options and freedom to express yourself.Perhaps you’re the shy type, and you express more of yourself when you’re behind the screen, texting him to ask him out would be ideal for you. You can get creative with things like pictures if you’re the funny type.Or send him a picture/link of what the place looks like if he doesn’t know what place you’re talking about, and so on. You can manage your reaction without having him witness it. Whether his response will be yes or no, you’ll react to it somehow.The good thing about this is that he won’t be able to see it, and you’ll have no pressure when it comes to responding to his answer.
– Here’s when asking a guy out isn’t the best idea!
When he’s showing signs he’s not interested through text, that’s when you’ve got to take a step back and read the room a little.He’s not interested, leave it alone, let it go. There are other men, there are other activities, and there’s a whole life of wonderful things waiting for you out there. When you don’t feel the connection, but you’re doing this because you feel lonely, and feel like you could use some male company.Invite a friend with whom you can have a good time, or stay alone until you feel comfortable with being alone. If you asked him out once and he said no. Asking him out again isn’t the best idea since he might just reject you again.Take his answer and work with what you’ve got. If it’s a no, let it go.
Yours, Callisto
